This episode focuses on the partners and loved ones of survivors of sexual assault rape, and sexual trauma. Sexual violence impacts more than just the survivor and it is so common for the loved ones to feel overwhelmed, scared, angry, alone, and confused. In this episode, I will outline six steps for how to support a loved one who has experienced sexual trauma and also the importance of helping yourself throughout this process. My intention is to support you in learning more about the experience of being a sexual assault survivor and also assist you in navigating this difficult situation. After this episode, I invite you to check out the episode shownotes for this episode (link below). Also, if you are a survivor of sexual violence, I invite you to share this with loved ones so they can learn how to better support you throughout your healing journey.Timestamps ⏱️Introduction: 00:14Listener Question: 02:06Outro:  26:27For episode show notes, please visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/98For more free resources and to learn more about New View Advice, visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/Want to have a question answered? You can submit your question here: https://www.newviewadvice.com/ask-a-questionThanks so much for listening! Sending you so much love!

In this episode we dive into the fear of putting yourself out there and the fear of abandonment, and how to begin to identify the root causes for these fears and how to heal. I answer a listener question from someone who enjoys being alone, but still struggles to put themselves out into the world authentically. They desire connection, but fear being left all alone or unaccepted. I discuss abandonment and how it is often connected to self-abandonment, and how these moments throughout our life can leave an impact on us and our hearts. My intention is to help you to see that vulnerability can be scary, but it’s also really courageous. You deserve to feel comfortable in your own skin. My hope is that through this episode you see your own bravery and feel inspired to be yourself. There’s no one like you and you deserve to express yourself in your own unique way.Timestamps ⏱️Introduction: 00:15Listener Question: 01:45Outro:  24:21For episode show notes, please visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/97For more free resources and to learn more about New View Advice, visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/Want to have a question answered? You can submit your question here: https://www.newviewadvice.com/ask-a-questionThanks so much for listening! Sending you so much love!

What do we do when we develop romantic feelings for a friend and they don’t feel the same? In this episode, I answer a question from a listener who is in love with their best friend and they don’t know what to do. I discuss how to navigate this situation, steps to gain clarity around the relationship, how to be honest with yourself and your friend, and how to decide if you should remain friends or let the relationship go. My intention is to help you to access your feelings and connect back to yourself so you can have confidence in what is best for you. Timestamps ⏱️Introduction: 00:15Listener Question: 01:32Outro:  23:00For episode show notes, please visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/96For more free resources and to learn more about New View Advice, visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/Want to have a question answered? You can submit your question here: https://www.newviewadvice.com/ask-a-questionThanks so much for listening! Sending you so much love!

In this episode I reflect on the healing journey and what that means to me. I spend time talking about how healing is a journey of transformation and how healing transforms our life for the better. This episode is here if you are looking for some inspiration, hope, or a new view on the healing journey.For episode show notes & transcript, please visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/95For more free resources and to learn more about New View Advice, visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/Want to have a question answered? You can submit your question here: https://www.newviewadvice.com/ask-a-questionThanks so much for listening! Sending you so much love!

This episode is about how to develop emotional maturity as an adult. Have you begun developing self-awareness but realized there are some immature patterns you’d like to change? Or have you noticed that in certain relationships you can be emotionally immature? Or do you struggle to handle or process your emotions? In this episode, I answer a listener question from someone who read the book Adult Children on Emotionally Immature Parents by Lindsay C Gibson and not only saw their parents’ behaviors in the book, but through self-reflection they realized they too possess some of these immature behaviors. In this episode, I outline 4 steps on how to develop emotional maturity. My intention for this episode is to help you to learn how to build emotional maturity, embrace your humanity, practice self-compassion, and lean into feeling your feelings.Timestamps ⏱️Introduction: 00:14Listener Question: 2:07Outro: 23:36For episode show notes, please visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/94For more free resources and to learn more about New View Advice, visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/Want to have a question answered? You can submit your question here: https://www.newviewadvice.com/ask-a-questionThanks so much for listening! Sending you so much love!

Are you curious about EMDR and wonder if it could help you on your healing journey? Have you tried it and wonder why it may not be working the way you expected? In this episode, I answer a listener question from someone who is starting EMDR and wants an honest opinion from someone who has done EMDR before. I talk about my own experience with EMDR and share 7 things I wish I knew before starting EMDR. My hope is that for anyone considering EMDR or currently in the process this episode will help you to better understand how EMDR can help to desensitize the really intense feelings attached to the memories of traumatic events, but also how EMDR may fall short in other areas. Full disclaimer - this episode is based on my own experiences using EMDR over the last 5 years. I am not a medical professional and this is not medical advice.Timestamps ⏱️Introduction: 0:14Listener Question: 02:08Outro: 23:01For episode show notes, please visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/93For more free resources and to learn more about New View Advice, visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/Want to have a question answered? You can submit your question here: https://www.newviewadvice.com/ask-a-questionThanks so much for listening! Sending you so much love!

Are you looking to heal from generational trauma but feel guilty moving forward? Are you afraid that by moving forward you could be forgetting the very real struggles of your ancestors? Are you afraid if you don’t continue to talk about it, then you are not honoring your family? This is a follow up episode 90: Generational Trauma: How to Heal the Impact of Family & Parental Trauma. In this episode, I focus on how to honor our ancestors and their experiences, while letting go of the guilt for leaving behind their suffering and trauma. Healing generational trauma involves taking the wisdom, lesson, and pearls from our ancestors, and being comfortable leaving behind the suffering. In this episode, I discuss how and why we honor our ancestors, and how doing this will help us to free ourselves of the guilt and shame so many of us are carrying. I discuss how generational trauma often feels like baggage and what we can do to begin to let go of that heavy burden.Timestamps ⏱️Introduction: 00:14Honoring Our Ancestors Teaching: 01:57Outro: 22:54For episode show notes, please visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/92For more free resources and to learn more about New View Advice, visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/Want to have a question answered? You can submit your question here: https://www.newviewadvice.com/ask-a-questionThanks so much for listening! Sending you so much love!

Many women experience feeling naive throughout their life and one way this happens is through dating abusive and harmful men. In this episode, we are going to explore how and why women can end up in a pattern of dating “bad” men and not even know why it is happening. Today I am answering a question from a listener who grew up without a male role model and now finds herself in a pattern of dating men who hurt her. My intention for this episode is to help you to see that there’s nothing wrong with you, why you should have love and empathy for yourself, why many women feel naive, and how to start changing the pattern so you can attract good partners.Timestamps ⏱️Introduction: 0:14Listener Question: 1:12Outro: 22:39For episode show notes, please visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/91For more free resources and to learn more about New View Advice, visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/Want to have a question answered? You can submit your question here: https://www.newviewadvice.com/ask-a-questionThanks so much for listening! Sending you so much love!

Generational trauma can feel like a heavy burden, but so many people, myself included, feel guilty and shameful for feeling anything other than positive feelings and gratitude towards their family and cultures. Today I will be discussing generational trauma and how to heal from the impact of our parents and family’s unresolved trauma. We will focus on trauma that is passed down from our parents to us and how we can begin to break the cycle so we do not pass that trauma onto future generations. In this episode, I answer a question from a listener who sees the impact of their parents' unresolved trauma on their life and wants to break the cycle in order to not impact future generations with this trauma. My intention is to help you begin your journey to healing generational trauma through a three step process I outline throughout the episode.Timestamps ⏱️Introduction: 0:14Listener Question: 1:37Outro: 26:46For episode show notes, please visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/90For more free resources and to learn more about New View Advice, visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/Want to have a question answered? You can submit your question here: https://www.newviewadvice.com/ask-a-questionThanks so much for listening! Sending you so much love!

So many of us struggle to feel confident in who we are, and often feel insecure. In this episode, I answer a question from a listener who wants to know why they have low self-esteem and how can they begin to build confidence. In this episode, I will share learnings from my own experiences healing my self-esteem, insecurities, and self-worth. I share four areas where I think many people’s insecurities and low self-esteem originate, and I also discuss four steps for building confidence in your own life. My intention for this episode is to assist you in healing your insecurities and building your self-esteem and self-worth one step at a time. You deserve to feel secure and confident in who you are. My hope is that after you listen to this episode you will feel empowered to take steps towards your building confidence in yourself. I also share a poem at the beginning that helped me on a day recently when I was feeling insecure. I hope you enjoy!Timestamps ⏱️Introduction: 0:15Poem: 01:54Listener Question: 04:25Outro:  34:00For episode show notes, please visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/89For more free resources and to learn more about New View Advice, visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/Want to have a question answered? You can submit your question here: https://www.newviewadvice.com/ask-a-questionThanks so much for listening! Sending you so much love!

Today I will be discussing why vulnerability can be so challenging men (and all people). In this episode, I answer a question from a man who is struggling to be vulnerable with his wife and feels defeated and angry by her criticisms of him. In this episode, we will learn about how society and culture impacts male vulnerability and how women can often have unrealistic expectations of men. This episode is about honoring the male experience and we’ll discuss how to ask your partner to honor your feelings. I also discuss how women (who are in romantic partnerships with men) can begin looking at their own patterns around men and their expectations of men in relationships.Timestamps ⏱️Introduction: 00:14Listener Question: 02:52Outro:  38:59For episode show notes, please visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/88For more free resources and to learn more about New View Advice, visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/Want to have a question answered? You can submit your question here: https://www.newviewadvice.com/ask-a-questionThanks so much for listening! Sending you so much love!

Do you ever find yourself feeling triggered by feeling like a third wheel? Do you struggle to hang out with your couple friends? Or do you even end up fighting with friends because you don’t want to be a third wheel? In this episode, I will be answering a question from a listener who has been single for awhile and enjoys time alone, but struggles with feeling like a third wheel. In this episode I will be helping this listener to dive deeper into their insecurity of not feeling like they are enough, when boundaries are what we need vs when boundaries are too rigid, and processing feelings of jealousy, sadness, and not fitting in. My intention for this episode is to help you to bring self-awareness to your triggers around being a third wheel, understand why you feel the way you do, and begin to free yourself from hard feelings and past experiences in order to feel more secure in the present.Timestamps ⏱️Introduction: 00:14Listener Question: 01:46Outro:  26:33For episode show notes, please visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/87For more free resources and to learn more about New View Advice, visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/Want to have a question answered? You can submit your question here: https://www.newviewadvice.com/ask-a-questionThanks so much for listening! Sending you so much love!

Perseverance is important on the healing journey because it reminds us of our strength when life feels challenging. In this episode, I explain perseverance and how resilience and delayed gratification can help you to continue to move forward. I also discuss my own healing journey and how I have learned to persevere over time, and that perseverance and hard work were not qualities that came naturally to me, but skills I developed throughout healing.Timestamps ⏱️Introduction: 00:15Why Perseverance Is Important for Healing Journey: 2:49Outro:  23:16For episode show notes, please visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/86For more free resources and to learn more about New View Advice, visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/Want to have a question answered? You can submit your question here: https://www.newviewadvice.com/ask-a-questionThanks so much for listening! Sending you so much love!

Welcome to Season 4! In honor of this new season, I wanted to share a love letter I wrote to the New View Advice Community. New View Advice would not be possible without all your love and support, so today I wanted to take a moment to thank you from my heart to yours. I hope you enjoy. Sending you all my love.Timestamps ⏱️Introduction: 00:15Love Letter: 01:00Outro:  4:24For episode show notes, please visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/85For more free resources and to learn more about New View Advice, visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/Want to have a question answered? You can submit your question here: https://www.newviewadvice.com/ask-a-questionThanks so much for listening! Sending you so much love!

Do you feel insecure in female friendships? Do you sometimes find it easier to be alone or with men than with other women? Do you find yourself feeling jealous, competitive, or mistrusting of women? If so, you may have a female friendship wound. In this episode, we discuss how to heal the female friendship wound. I’ll be answering a question from a listener looking for advice on unhealthy female friendships. This listener recently went through a friendship break up, and sees a pattern, but doesn’t know where to start. She has struggled throughout their life to keep female friends. As women, we all desire deep connection with other women, and my intention for this episode is to assist you with healing the female friendship wound, become aware of where your friendship patterns originated from, grieve past friendships, and begin to embrace friendships from a heart-centered and empowered place.Timestamps ⏱️Introduction: 00:14Listener Question: 02:07What is the female friendship wound: 4:215 Steps for Healing the Female Friendship Wound: 17:54Outro:  33:51For episode show notes, please visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/84For more free resources and to learn more about New View Advice, visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/Want to have a question answered? You can submit your question here: https://www.newviewadvice.com/ask-a-questionThanks so much for listening! Sending you so much love!

Do you find yourself having fearful thoughts and living life in fear? Do you struggle with anxiety or always fear that bad things are going to happen and you have no control? In this episode, I’ll be discussing what to do when we are living life with fear, general anxiety, or anticipatory anxiety over things that we can’t predict or control. I’ll be answering a question from a listener who is struggling with feeling like they are afraid of everything and always coming up with worst case scenarios (such as constantly thinking about a loved one dying). My intention for this episode is to help you to learn how to move out of fear-based thinking and into loving thoughts that will help you be more peaceful and grounded in your day-to-day life. We will also discuss where fearful thoughts come from, why we have so many fear based thoughts, and fear vs love.Timestamps ⏱️Introduction: 00:15Question: 02:00Steps to Overcome Fear: 11:37Outro: 30:33For episode show notes, please visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/83For more free resources and to learn more about New View Advice, visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/Want to have a question answered? You can submit your question here: https://www.newviewadvice.com/ask-a-questionThanks so much for listening! Sending you so much love!

Do you find the holidays overwhelming and stressful? Do you have a hard time setting boundaries? Do you find yourself hoping that the holidays will just get over with rather than finding ways to enjoy this time of year? In this episode, I will be answering a question from a listener who struggles with the holidays because of people pleasing tendencies and being an empath. I talk about what it means to be a people pleaser and where this pattern often originates from, and what it means to be an empath and why many people pleasers are also empaths. I will also be outlining 5 steps that I recommend for overcoming stress and overwhelm this holiday season. My intention for this episode is to help you to learn how to find balance this holiday season and feel joyful and excited for the holidays.Timestamps ⏱️Introduction: 00:14Question: 01:505 Tips: 14:32Outro: 40:36For episode show notes, please visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/82For more free resources and to learn more about New View Advice, visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/Want to have a question answered? You can submit your question here: https://www.newviewadvice.com/ask-a-questionThanks so much for listening! Sending you so much love!

In this episode, we discuss how to make a relationship work when you love your partner, but their parents disapprove because you are from a different religion or culture. I answer a question from a listener who is struggling after a break up. Her and her ex broke up because his family did not approve of her because she is from a different culture. They have struggled to communicate about the problem and now she wants to know if she should wait for him or if it’s time to move on. My intention for this episode is to help you to learn how to navigate familial relationships when you are both from different cultures, backgrounds, and religions, learn to communicate effectively, and how to confidently decide what is best for you, waiting for your ex or moving on.Timestamps ⏱️Introduction: 00:14Question: 01:30Outro: 27:18For episode show notes and free journal prompts, please visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/81Learn more about Amanda & New View Advice: https://www.newviewadvice.com/Want to have a question answered? You can submit your question here: https://www.newviewadvice.com/ask-a-questionThanks so much for listening! Sending you so much love!

In this episode, I discuss why disappointment hurts so much and why it can feel like failure or a punishment. I answer a question from a listener who is having difficulty navigating a disappointing year that has them feeling down and defeated. We will learn how disappointment is often our psyche’s way of telling us that we have unrealistic expectations or that we are attached to a future outcome rather than living in the present. My intention for this episode is to help you in understanding that although disappointment can really hurt, it’s not a punishment or a bad thing and that it is actually an opportunity to get honest with yourself and realign your life to the present moment.Timestamps ⏱️Introduction: 0:00Question About Disappointment: 1:44Outro: 26:28Episode Shownotes: https://www.newviewadvice.com/80Learn more about Amanda & New View Advice: https://www.newviewadvice.com/Want to have a question answered? You can submit your question here: https://www.newviewadvice.com/ask-a-questionThanks so much for listening! Sending you so much love!

It is so common for wounds and beliefs from your teen years to continue negatively impacting your adult life and relationships. In this episode, we learn about your inner teenager, the types of false beliefs that we create in our teenage years, and why the root of many of our adult problems are actually based on those untrue beliefs about life that we developed in our teen years. My intention for this episode is to assist you in connecting back with your inner teenager so that you can identify and heal your inner teenager and start living your best life.Timestamps ⏱️Introduction: 00:14Inner Teenager Discussion: 2:23Outro: 34:18For episode show notes and free journal prompts, please visit: https://www.newviewadvice.com/79Learn more about Amanda & New View Advice: https://www.newviewadvice.com/Want to have a question answered? You can submit your question here: https://www.newviewadvice.com/ask-a-question